“It’s not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it myself.” – Joyce Maynard
While families typically seek out Pacific Quest because of struggles their children are facing, we recognize that the entire family system is often under strain. To support sustainable and lasting familial growth, we fully utilize family participation in the therapeutic process. Our approach to working with families is psychologically informed, as our clinicians draw on family systems theory, which emphasizes that the health of the family is the sum of its parts. By involving the entire family in the healing process, we aim to enhance communication, increase empathy and develop usable conflict resolution skills, ultimately deepening each individual’s understanding and trust in the greater process.
Weekly Discovery Calls
Families are guided through the process of meaningful and effective communication. Throughout a young person’s Pacific Quest journey, parents have weekly phone calls with their child’s primary therapist. These hour-long calls provide an opportunity to discuss observations, assessments and progress toward individualized therapeutic goals. Additionally, therapists focus on supporting parents as they establish personal goals for themselves, along with exploring family dynamics, boundary setting and parenting techniques.
Pacific Quest’s Sustainable Growth model supports therapeutic growth within the family by bringing intention and mindfulness into communication. Communication between parent(s) and child begins with letter writing, affording both parties the space to reflect on emotions before reacting. Letter writing allows all family members to compose drafts, seek feedback and increase awareness around effective communication. Once healthy communication is established in letter writing, the therapist will work with the family on deepening relationships through family therapy via phone and/or Skype calls.